6 Comments I Can Live Without
To me, having 5 children is not that unusual. It’s only 2 more than 3, and a lot of people have 3 children. And it’s not like I’m a Duggar or anything, parading my family life on television for the world to see. So I am always a bit taken aback at the comments people make to me about our family.
I also know that many times people say things with good intentions (at least some of them) but it can get a bit irritating after a while. Here’s my list of comments I have heard but can live without.
1) They can’t all be yours.
I would like to believe they mean that I look too young, beautiful and sane to have 5 children, but it is usually said with such a look of incredulous horror that I don’t think that’s what they mean.
2) You must be Catholic (with the implied you don’t believe in birth control).
Yes, in fact, I am Catholic. Being around large Catholic families probably did instill a love of big families in me. However, I did not consciously decide to have a large family because I am Catholic, and I do believe in birth control.
3) Wow, you have your hands full.
This comment irks me because it is usually said in front of the kids. I never want the kids to feel that they are a burden to me. I have heard recommendations from other parents to turn the comment around by saying, “full of love” or “full of blessings,” but these phrases don’t come naturally to me when people are commenting.
4) You can’t possibly work (outside of the home) too.
This comment bothered me when I was working in the lab, and still bothers me now that I work from home.
5) We know her stand on population control.
This little tidbit was said to me by a boss when he was talking about his dislike of Sarah Palin (she has 5 children).
And my all-time favorite conversation about the number of children I have was said to me when I was very pregnant with Number 5.
6) I don’t know how you do it. How do you keep having children and handing them over to other women to raise while you go to work? It’s great that you empower other women to have jobs, but I don’t understand how you do it.
That one left me completely tongue-tied.